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if you are dogged by feelings of shame, regret or self-reproach, if you dread getting things wrong so much that it puts you off trying, or you spend buckets of energy trying to make everything perfect.

A quick summary

Shame by Dr Joseph Burgo explains how shame appears in a range of disguises, from social anxiety, self-hatred and addiction, to a sense of superiority and contempt for others. As a psychotherapist, Burgo offers a deep understanding of where these feelings begin, and how they affect everyday life. He sets out how anyone can become ‘shame resilient’ – not by avoiding shame, but by understanding it, and changing how you respond when those feelings come up. This is a really good book – very wise, readable and practical, and dealing with a vital issue that has such an impact on health and wellbeing.


Publisher’s description:

Human beings everywhere, in every culture and on every continent in the world over, experience shame in exactly the same way: gaze aversion, brief mental confusion, and a longing to disappear, usually accompanied by blushing of the face, neck, or chest. What scientists understand and believe about shame differs broadly from the way a layperson conceives of it. Most people tend to view shame as something big and bad, a toxic emotion we hope never to feel.

In contrast, researchers who study the emotions conceive of shame as more varied in nature and not always so imposing. This book will introduce you to the entire shame family of emotions (including embarrassment, guilt, and self-consciousness), which are unavoidable aspects of everyday life and not always toxic. Richly illustrated with clinical stories from Burgo’s 35 years in private practice, Shame is an intimate look at the full spectrum of shame – often masked by addiction, promiscuity, perfectionism, self-loathing, or narcissism – that offers a new, positive route forward.

Burgo argues that listening and learning from our encouters with shame will go further than affirmations and positive self-talk in helping us to build authentic self-esteem. His is a deeply empowering message, and one that brings hope and results.

Additional information

Format Paperback
Weight 426 g
Dimensions 234 × 160 × 24 mm
Book Author

ISBN 9781786782588


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