Tag: Self-Esteem

  • We recommend this... particularly for cis women who are struggling with confidence, body image, societal expectations, sexual relationships, or much-misunderstood health issues such as PCOS and for their family, friends and lovers. A quick summary This is an unusual and brilliant thing - a science book that goes at breathless pace, written with wisecracking humour and personal honesty. But don't underestimate it from the informal style - Sara Pascoe is deeply sincere and serious about her enquiry, and this book is the result of wide-ranging reading across psychology, sociology and medicine. Her commentary is insightful and sharp. She is also always funny, humane and kind. Content note: includes discussion of rape and sexual assault; abortion; traumatic births; traumatic and non-consensual medical experimentation
  • We recommend this... for women, femmes and non-binary folk to reflect on how you think about your body and explore new ways of relating to your physical self. A quick summary... This guided journal offers a genuinely uplifting way of looking into body image - avoiding turning 'self-love' into another way to sell beauty products or another thing you are failing to tick off a to-do list. Fariha Róisín addresses Disability, racism, size, trauma, ageing and the complex, conflicted feelings many people have about beauty and bodies. Being in Your Body offers compassionate, inclusive and life-enhancing questions and points for consideration, with space for your responses, and beautiful illustrations by Monica Ramos.
  • We suggest this... if you are struggling to complete housework, meal planning or hygiene tasks - or you complete them driven by anxiety and shame. (scroll down for more about the book)
  • We recommend this... for men who are feeling miserable, disappointed or stuck - especially straight cis men. A quick summary John Kim was the miserable f*ck of the title - divorced, disappointed, and having no idea what he really wanted, he reached a crunch point and had to re-assess everything. Having slain his own dragons, and, as a therapist and life coach (The Angry Therapist) helped many others to do the same, he has distilled his learning into 66 dos and don'ts. I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck is wide-ranging but always to the point, relatable, funny and sweary (obviously) - a bracing run down of how to come fully alive as a man.
  • We recommend this... for any man who feels 'not fully alive' - stuck, not sure who you're supposed to be, discontent, or feeling like you are always putting on a front that hides your true self. A quick summary This book has an arresting premise and a big, but realistic, ambition. Steve Biddulph sets it up from the start: "The premise of this book is a harsh one, but with hope at its heart... Most men are not fully alive... They are staggeringly lacking in the spark of life. They have no real purpose and very little joy. This is what we have come to accept as normal manhood, though deep down we (and our partners and children) hunger for there to be more." Looking the  situation square in the eye, Biddulph then offers myriad realistic ways to get out of this misery and come fully alive. The book covers love and sex, parenthood, friendship, work, finding happiness and fulfilment, and how to survive having suicidal thoughts. It's mostly written to and for straight cis men, but also could be a real insight for all those who love them. If you're a man who doesn't read "self-help", please read this anyway - unless you're already very happy?
  • We recommend this... for teenagers, especially if they are having a hard time. A quick summary This is a very empathetic book of information and advice for young people, ranging across all the everyday challenges of modern life for teenagers, and also discussing serious mental ill-health in a helpful way. It's straightforward, honest, funny and LGBTQ+ inclusive. We love it.
  • We suggest this... for any young child who feels shy or uncertain about speaking up or being themselves. (scroll down for more about the book)
  • We recommend this... for anyone interested in mindfulness, especially if you're tried it and found it uncomfortable, difficult or impractical in everyday life. A quick summary In Radical Compassion Tara Brach shares her very well-founded and practical approach to mindfulness. She shows how you can make mindfulness real and relevant in your everyday life - as it was always meant to be. Mindfulness is not only a practice for the spiritual seeker - it is a natural, simple (if not easy) way for anyone to feel more fully alive and connected. Brach shows how to make this happen in this very helpful book.
  • We recommend this... if you are feeling burned out, if you are fed up with friends, family or colleagues leaning too heavily on you or saying things you find hurtful, or if you feel like you don't know how to be yourself around other people. A quick summary Set Boundaries, Find Peace is a brisk and straightforward practical guide to how you can use 'boundaries' to improve your health and wellbeing. Many, many people have trouble with setting boundaries, and it is the common issue underlying lots of different personal and relationship difficulties. Nedra Tawwab sets out what healthy boundaries are, how to identify your own, and how to assert them. The book gives you specific examples of things you can say, which is very helpful because it can be hard to find the words if you didn't have role models for this when you were growing up. Tawwab also deals with how difficult setting boundaries can be - she explains how to deal with the challenges and the changes it creates in your relationships.
  • Shame

    We recommend this... if you are dogged by feelings of shame, regret or self-reproach, if you dread getting things wrong so much that it puts you off trying, or you spend buckets of energy trying to make everything perfect. A quick summary Shame by Dr Joseph Burgo explains how shame appears in a range of disguises, from social anxiety, self-hatred and addiction, to a sense of superiority and contempt for others. As a psychotherapist, Burgo offers a deep understanding of where these feelings begin, and how they affect everyday life. He sets out how anyone can become 'shame resilient' - not by avoiding shame, but by understanding it, and changing how you respond when those feelings come up. This is a really good book - very wise, readable and practical, and dealing with a vital issue that has such an impact on health and wellbeing.


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