Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex & Relationships


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for anyone struggling to make the traditional social ‘rules’ about relationships work for themselves, and interested in alternatives.

A quick summary

Shop favourite Meg-John Barker offers a frank, radical and refreshing rethink of all the spoken and unspoken rules we are given about intimate relationships. Barker questions the rules, and offers up a much broader, more inclusive, more resilient, more adventurous menu of alternatives.

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Publisher’s description:

We live in a time of uncertainty about relationships. We search for The One but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. We long for a happily-ever-after but break-up after break-up leave us bruised and confused.

Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships is a friendly guide through the complicated – and often contradictory – advice that’s given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment. It asks questions about the rules of love, such as which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own? And what about the times when the rules we love by seem to make things worse, rather than better? This new edition, updated throughout, considers how the rules are being ‘rewritten’ in various ways – for example in monogamish and polyamorous relationships, different ways of understanding sex and gender, and new ideas for managing commitment and break-up where economics, communities, or child-care make complete separation impossible.

Additional information

Format Paperback
Weight 506 g
Dimensions 216 × 134 × 22 mm
Book Author

ISBN 9781138043596


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