How to Keep House While Drowning


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if you are struggling to complete housework, meal planning or hygiene tasks – or you complete them driven by anxiety and shame.

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(review by Kate MacDougall)

How to Keep House While Drowning is great for anyone who is struggling with completing housework, meal planning or personal hygiene tasks – the things we usually think of as chores, and that author KC Davis suggests we re-frame as care tasks. It’s different from most advice, because Davis is a therapist. She recognises how trauma, neurodivergence, and mental and physical ill-health cause difficulties with getting care tasks done. Davis herself has ADHD and started her Struggle Care platform after experiencing post-natal depression in the pandemic. She is focused on what is functional and workable, not on aesthetics.

Davis is committed to alleviating the shame people feel when they struggle with housework.

There are lots of reasons why care tasks may be difficult for a person: mental health, chronic illness, neuro-divergence, problems with executive functioning, seasons of life such as grief, postpartum, or small children, lack of family supports, being the caretaker of an ill or special needs child, trauma, or lack of childhood modeling. Perhaps most paralyzing is the shame felt when one is unable to complete care tasks. Internal messages of laziness and failure compound the feelings of overwhelm and make care tasks seem even more insurmountable. (from the Struggle Care website)

How to Keep House While Drowning offers a new way of thinking about care tasks – taking them out of the moralistic ‘bad/good’ framework that causes the shame. It offers practical tips and systems that you can lift or adapt for your own particular needs. It also addresses the question of how to split sharing the domestic load in relationships.

This is the perfect book for you if you are dogged by anxiety, shame and self-reproach about care tasks, or if you serve your house more than it serves you.

Equally, if you worry about how a loved one is living, it could help you understand what’s going on with them and work out what (not) to say or do.

Additional information

Format Hardback
Weight 306 g
Dimensions 184 × 134 × 18 mm
Book Author

ISBN 9781529900033


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